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The Four Pillars of True Power

Many of us spend a lot of our time developing our physical strength. We are inspired to work out, to build a strong, athletic body—but is being physically strong the only sign of our true personal power?

Many of us push forward in our professional lives, creating an imbalance with the number of hours we work and what we do with our free time. Then there are those of us who still believe that we need to take on a tough or bitchy demeanor as a way to fit in, to succeed, to survive.

But what if physical force was only one aspect of power? What if we could truly feel we are powerful in a way that includes all aspects of who we are—physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual?

Look at our top athletes. Can a gymnast win Olympic gold with pure strength alone? No, he/she needs focus and grounding as well as a strong body. Can a wrestler succeed only with brute force? No, he/she needs flexibility, both physical and mental, to really achieve. Will an executive succeed in motivating her/his employees with bullying tactics? No, the ability to communicate clearly and hear the needs of others is essential for success.

So, let’s reframe power.
 Let’s say that in order to be truly powerful, you will need to have not only physical strength and courage, but will also need to develop focus, grounding, and flexibility with the same amount of effort and diligence.

So here’s the formula: True power means having proficiency in focus, grounding, strength, and flexibility. And the sign of a truly powerful person is someone who has developed all four equally. Think of the legs of a table. It doesn’t matter how long the legs of the table are. What is important is that the four legs are the same size or the table will tip and teeter. The same is true for us. We are truly powerful in body, mind, and spirit when we have developed an equal level of skill in focus, grounding, strength, and flexibility. Actually, you might say that someone with a moderate yet equal development of all four qualities is ultimately more powerful than someone who is only physically strong.

As we open to new ways of developing strength, we actually see how much power we already have. Opening to these subtler aspects of power gives you the confidence to live your life with vulnerability. And as I always say: it is only in your vulnerability that your True Power is revealed. As we add mental focus, emotional flexibility, and spiritual grounding to our physical strength, we notice that things seem to flow, and we walk through our lives with more energy and ease. Now, who wouldn’t want more of that?

Do these concepts interest and inspire you? Join us in DC on July 29 for the one-day training 4 Pillars of True Power. This new course was developed as a supplement to the Respectful Confrontation trainings and will allow you to tap into your True Power and come up with a simple daily practice to ensure that you have regular access to this power.




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